Autumn has spoken

Do you know how you grow up listening to a song - the words of which you believe are the words stick in your head -- then you learn that you've been singing the wrong words all along?

I thought that the Cat Stevens song had a line in it "Autumn has spoken" but apparently its blackbird has spoken - so there you go. The title of this entry stays....

Been quiet on the blog posts in October but that does not mean we've been quiet on decisions. Just short on time.

Columbus Day weekend sparked a flurry of thinking and discussions on our nuptials. I spent countless hours looking at B&Bs - in Mass, Vermont, CT -- on the internet and C and I got a little stir crazy and forced ourselves to leave the apt or suffer a mini meltdown.

Thinking of the right place to have your wedding is stressful. You want it to be beautiful. You want it to be memorable. You want it to be different than other peoples. You want it to be what YOU want it to be and its difficult when you start taking what your family - and future in-laws - would want into consideration.

Some cool things for a wedding I have been thinking about:

• dunking booth -- dunk the bride -- how much fun would this be? seriously....
• drag karaoke -- this would be AMAZING
• choreographed dance moves -- C&I are going to learn the dance from Frida (the one with Selma Hayek and that woman -- the dance is hot hot hot
• dogs jumping through hoops and rings of fire
• a mime who interacts with people the whole time - -i am laughing already picturing this
  

Wedding planning is really analogous to chess. It starts with a series of small moves (pawns) - C&I know we want to be outside in nature, we want to be barefoot in the grass, we want Deb at Beast to cater, we want a Tonnie's Minis cupcake tier -- and now we have to start moving the heavy hitters (bishops, castles) -- and nail down the venue and date - and so on and so forth.

Wedding Day is looking like Columbus Day weekend -- we want a Fall wedding -- but we shall see if that pans out based on venue availability I guess -- which seems crazy.

We have talked about Provincetown, Brooklyn and possibly New Paltz area, but we keep coming back to Brooklyn. Brooklyn is where we met and feel connected and also the mid point for our families to travel. Big con with Brooklyn is there are no places (really) for guests to stay overnight.

Thus far we' ve visited the Japanese Garden in the Brooklyn Botanic Garden and have plans to see the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture.

We'll spend the next few weeks calculating moves....and will report on our decisions.

This is so exciting and nerve wracking. I have never been more sure about anyone in my life.

The show must go on.